Today our lovely guest writer Nikki from Earthway Parenting is talking with us about parenting consciously. This is a great read.
Parenting consciously; an approach that many of us aren’t familiar with, or if you are, it’s an approach that you have intuitively found and are already doing, parenting from your own heart space.
I believe that in raising your children consciously that it is the beginning of a relationship fuelled with love, compassion and empathy, as well as empowerment for self and for them, your children.
Children that are raised with love and not fear have a strong belief in themselves.
Conscious communication is at the core of all parent and child interactions. We make an impact in their world with the words that we CHOOSE on a daily basis.
In consciously choosing words that connect such as, “here comes my little dude,” instead of “oh no, here comes trouble.” The words that you CHOOSE to use will either characterize and connect with them in a positive way or they will demoralize their sense of self and slowly disconnect themselves from you as their parent.
Because the interactions with you are negative and don’t feel good for them.
If we do not consciously think about the words that we CHOOSE to use to characterize our children’s behaviour, then how we speak to our children and who we think we are raising is who we will raise!
Were you spoken to negatively in your own childhood?
Without self understanding your own personal history it will more likely repeat itself.
“How you make sense of your childhood experiences has a profound effect on how you parent your own children. In understanding more about yourself in a deeper way it can help you to build a more effective and enjoyable relationship with your children.” As quoted by Daniel Siegal MD and Mary Hartzell Med, from the book ‘Parenting from the inside out.’
When we become parents we are given an amazing gift to grow from as individuals if we CHOOSE to. This is no easy feat! This is a journey that is always unfolding, a journey that you will struggle with at times. It will unfurl past hurts, past pain, and past triggers.
In being conscious of this, and of your past, in embracing it and allowing the self growth to take place, I can promise you that this “self therapy” will only strengthen your resolve and strengthen your conscious parenting muscle. That can only benefit you and your children!
In CHOOSING to parent consciously it does not make you immune to your own daily struggles with your little ones, however it does allow for self growth and self awareness.
As the belated and beautiful Doctor. Maya Angelou has said, “when you know better, you do better.” Doing better as human beings, but NOT doing perfect!
So be mindful of the words that you CHOOSE to use. Your children are sponges, they trap, hold and swell with everything said to them and absorb all that surrounds them.
For my husband and I, the human beings that we CHOOSE to raise will be ones filled with compassion, empathy and an intuitive curious nature. No matter our exhaustion or stress, we CHOOSE daily to live consciously and to CHOOSE our words wisely as much as we humanly can.
Because after all, we can only DO the best we can with the knowledge that we HAVE.
Earthway Parenting provides a safe place for parents to share and honour each others journey’s. It is a space to come together and embrace the winds of change, to nourish each other’s soul with education as well as impart wisdom. It is about discovering and enabling conscious and intuitive parenting.
Nikki will start writes for us every month so be sure to keep your eye out for future posts. Previous articles include:
Tantrums – an attempt to communicate – view here.
eBooks & workshops
Nikki has 2 eBooks available. You can download the Conscious Parenting eBook here (FREE).
Or her Infant Connection eBook here ($14.95)
She also has Infant Care & Connection Workshops starting in February 2017 – see here.
Photo credit (top) – Tara Samuelson Photography